After my last post, many of you wrote to me: “Sometimes I realize that I use the same sentences and tones that my mother used with me. How can I change it?".
When I say a sentence that doesn’t reflect the educational style I chose, I make a (mental or written) note with an alternative sentence, and visualize myself saying that sentence to my children in the future.
It's a bit like learning a script: it helps a lot to replace sentences that don’t reflect the parent that we want to be.