A mother wrote to me: “My psychologist says it's my fault that I don't ask”.⁣
1. Asking for help is hard. It takes practice, start today: ask your partner to do something you’d normally do.⁣
2. It’s not fault: it's a mental construct of the society we grew up in. It’s not your fault, but it’s your responsibility to change that construct in your mind.⁣
Ps. Let’s start with the dialogue with ourselves: change “It’s my fault if I do not…” (negative sentence) into “It’s my responsibility to…” (positive sentence). And don’t let people say it’s your fault, not even professionals. It’s often not even true.⁣